It’s normal to feel uncertain or scared about fighting back. Many worry that hitting someone first might get them in trouble or escalate the situation. However, self-defense is about protecting yourself when there’s a real threat — and it’s both morally and legally supported when done properly.
What the law says in Malaysia:
According to Section 96 of the Penal Code, you have the right to defend yourself if:
You have a reasonable belief that an attack is about to happen.
Your actions are proportional to the threat (you don’t use excessive force).
You stop defending yourself once you are safe.
This means you don’t have to wait to be hurt first before you act. Striking first, but carefully and only to protect yourself, is justified.
Why striking first can be safer:
Disrupts the bully’s momentum: A quick strike can throw off their balance or focus, making it harder for them to continue.
Creates shock and hesitation: Bullies usually expect victims to back down or block, so striking first can surprise them and make them think twice.
Buys time to escape: Even a couple of seconds can be the difference between getting away safely or being caught in a fight.
Where to strike safely: Aim for areas that cause pain but won’t cause lasting harm. Visit our class to know more about this.
The goal is to stop the attack quickly, not to hurt the bully badly.
Bullying doesn’t always stay just verbal or social—it sometimes crosses the line into physical actions that can hurt you. This kind of bullying includes behaviors like being shoved, tripped, slapped, or cornered aggressively. Recognizing when teasing or intimidation turns into physical danger is critical because it gives you a chance to act before things get worse.
How to recognize when bullying is turning physical:
Rapid approach: The bully suddenly closes the distance between you quickly, invading your personal space and leaving little room to react.
Aggressive tone: The bully’s voice becomes louder, sharp, or filled with anger and threats.
Threatening gestures: Clenched fists, sudden arm swings, or threatening body language signal a possible attack.
Blocked escape routes: If the bully stands in front of you or corners you in a hallway or classroom, they may be trying to trap you.
These warning signs are your “red flags” that physical harm could be imminent. Waiting too long or hoping the bully will stop on their own might leave you vulnerable. Your goal in these moments is to protect yourself and get out of harm’s way safely.
Options when you spot these signs:
Try to create distance immediately.
Use your voice firmly to say things like, “Back off!” or “Stop!” to draw attention.
Prepare your body to defend yourself if necessary (more on this in later parts).
Look for a safe route to escape and get help from adults or peers nearby.
Recently, the nation has been shaken by heartbreaking news about school bullying following the tragic death of Form 1 student Zara Qairina Mahathir. Her story has brought to light the harsh realities many students face behind school walls and realities that go far beyond mere teasing or childish disputes. It serves as a painful reminder that bullying is not just an unfortunate part of growing up, but a serious issue that threatens the safety, dignity, and even the lives of young people.
Bullying in schools is not just a matter of hurt feelings — for many students, it’s a daily threat to their safety, dignity, and mental well-being. While schools often promote the idea of “walk away and tell a teacher,” the reality is far more complex. What happens when walking away isn’t possible? What if the bully doesn’t stop?
In this upcoming 6-part series, I’ll be breaking down the hard truths about school bullying, your right to self-defense, and how to handle situations before, during, and after they happen. Here’s what you can expect:
Part 1 – The 4 Types of Bullying Before we dive into physical confrontations, we’ll identify the four main forms of bullying — physical, verbal, social, and cyber — and how each can impact a student’s safety and well-being.
Part 2 – When Bullying Gets Physical We’ll talk about how to recognize when teasing or intimidation has crossed the line into physical danger — and what your options are in that critical moment.
Part 3 – The Right to Strike as Defense We’ll explore when it is legally and morally justified to use force, and why “strike first if necessary” can sometimes be the safest choice — while avoiding unnecessary escalation.
Part 4 – Why Traditional “Just Block or Walk Away” Advice Often Fails We’ll break down why common school safety advice doesn’t always work in real-life bullying situations, and how to prepare for scenarios where those methods fall short.
Part 5 – Reporting After an Incident We’ll cover the right way to document and report what happened, how to protect yourself from retaliation, and why the aftermath matters as much as the incident itself.
Part 6 – Building Awareness, Confidence, and Prevention Against Future Targeting We’ll focus on developing mental strength, situational awareness, and personal boundaries so you’re less likely to be targeted in the first place.
Whether you’re a student, parent, or educator, this series aims to give you a realistic, balanced, and responsible view of self-defense in a school setting — because safety should never be left to chance.
Let’s be honest: in a real fight, no one’s going to let you finish your beautiful kata or poomsae. That’s why many in the self-defense world dismiss traditional forms as outdated or even useless.
But here’s the truth most don’t talk about: Forms weren’t originally created for show—they were created for survival.
The Real Origin of Forms
In ancient times, warriors didn’t always have sparring partners. Forms were solo blueprints to train deadly techniques—strikes, grabs, takedowns, escapes—against multiple attackers. Every move had a purpose. It wasn’t choreography; it was coded combat. They were once powerful training tools meant to preserve and transmit real fighting techniques.
The problem? Over time, martial arts became sports and performances. Forms got watered down, stylized, and stripped of their original intent. Flash replaced function.
A Brief History of Forms
The history of forms stretches back centuries:
In China, styles like Shaolin Kung Fu developed elaborate Taolu to preserve their systems. These were influenced by military drills, animal movements, and battlefield tactics.
In Okinawa, Kata evolved under the influence of both Chinese martial arts and indigenous fighting methods, later forming the basis of Karate.
In Korea, Hyung and later Poomsae were developed post-war as part of national efforts to unify martial arts systems like Taekwondo.
Each culture used forms not just as training tools, but as a way to codify knowledge, especially in times when oral or written instruction was limited.
So, Are They Still Worth Learning?
Yes—but only if you strip away the fancy stuff and train them the right way.
In Reality-Based Defense, we don’t perform forms—we extract from them:
Practical moves for real-world violence
Fast responses under chaos
Response memory training under pressure
Drills that simulate real threats
Conclusion
Forms were never meant to be performance pieces. They were living libraries—preserving the knowledge of warriors who fought for survival. While modern interpretations have diluted their combat value, the original essence still remains—waiting to be rediscovered by those willing to look deeper than the surface.
I was bullied in school. It wasn’t just the physical pain—it was the fear, the silence, and the feeling of being powerless.
That experience shaped who I am today. It’s why I now teach realistic self-defense—not to encourage violence, but to help others never feel helpless again.
Bullying comes in many forms: 🔸 Physical – Kicking, hitting, tripping, pushing, or damaging someone’s belongings. 🔸 Verbal – Teasing, insults, threats, or cruel comments about someone’s body. 🔸 Social – Spreading rumors, excluding someone, or publicly embarrassing them. 🔸 Cyber – Online threats, hurtful texts, or viral shaming through images and videos.
These aren’t “just part of growing up.” They can leave deep emotional scars that last for years.
What I teach isn’t about throwing punches or “getting even.” It’s about awareness, boundary setting, verbal assertiveness, and calm, effective responses—including physical techniques, only if absolutely necessary.
Real self-defense teaches students how to: ✅ Walk with confidence ✅ De-escalate dangerous situations ✅ Protect themselves without becoming violent ✅ Rebuild their self-worth I’ve seen students go from scared and anxious… to empowered and unshakable.
That transformation is what keeps me going. If you’re a parent, teacher, or student who believes that safety shouldn’t be left to chance, let’s talk.
Because no one deserves to feel powerless.
Let’s raise a generation that’s not just strong—but confident, aware, and unbreakable.
