Written by Hafidz Hamid
March 29, 2023
We need to continuously make effort to put a stop to street and domestic violence against women.
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After Malaysia’s MCO (Movement Control Order) was implemented in response to the COVID19 outbreak, domestic violence has increased. Several forms of abuse, such as sexual, psychological, economic, emotional, and finally physical, are included in the definition of domestic violence, which extends beyond physical violence.
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It is not easy to deal with such situations without 𝐔𝐍𝐃𝐄𝐑𝐒𝐓𝐀𝐍𝐃𝐈𝐍𝐆 𝐇𝐎𝐖 𝐈𝐓 𝐒𝐓𝐀𝐑𝐓𝐄𝐃 & 𝐇𝐎𝐖 𝐈𝐓 𝐄𝐒𝐂𝐀𝐋𝐀𝐓𝐄𝐒. We will get a clearer picture once we understand 𝐓𝐇𝐄 𝐂𝐘𝐂𝐋𝐄 𝐎𝐅 𝐀𝐁𝐔𝐒𝐄.Below is an article that will give you a clearer picture on the type of Domestic Abuses and the Cycle of Domestic Violence. Once violence started, it will not stop. Sometimes it looks like it has stopped, but it just a phase. Once tension starts to build up again, it will continue again. That is why it is called the Cycle of Abuse.
Source: Domestic Violence Act (Amendment) 2017 & WAO
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Self defense it is not always about FIGHTING VIOLENCE WITH VIOLENCE, your awareness can also act as a mode of self defense to prevent a situation from happening or to reduce the severeness of the situation. Sometimes, you do not need to involve physical action to defend yourself. Just by having the basic awareness & knowledge can save lives.
“Do not pray for an easy life, pray for the strength to endure a difficult one.”
Important Questions
We will cover during our Women Self-Defense Course
10 Most Common Questions raised by Victims:
- How can I get out from this abusive relationship?
- How to protect myself at home or on the street?
- Should i continue to suffer in silence? Maybe my partner will change in due time?
- How to ask for help without leaving a digital trace?
- Do I have the rights to defend myself against physical abuse or random street attacks?
- Am I fighting violence with violence if i choose to strike back the attacker?
- What should i plan or do for my escape in an abusive relationship?
- Where or who to ask for help?
- How should I react when i face life threatening situation at home or on the street?
- Where & How to strike back when my life is at stake during a physical attack?
10 Most Common Questions Raised by The Public:
- How can we help when you hear someone being abused domestically
- What are the types of domestic abuse?
- How domestic violence begin? What are the signs?
- What to do & what not to do during a physical attack situation?
- How to react towards any physical attack?
- What are the types of attack on street & Domestic physical abuse?
- When to run? When to defend yourself? When to decide to run or defend?
- How to strike? Where to strike?
- Are we fighting violence with violence if we choose to fight back?
- Where to seek help? For emergency cases of domestic abuse?
The Violence at Home Sign for Help
The hand signal everyone should know
If you see someone giving out this signal in public or through video call. Please do not ignore, as they may be a victim of Domestic Abuse and may be in a danger.If you are the victim, you may use the above sign to ask for help.
Use this signal to ask for help on a video call without leaving a digital trace, or show it to someone while not being seen by your aggressor or abductor as a sign you are under duress.
If you see someone showing this hand signal on a video call or anywhere else, reach the nearest authority and find ways to help that person.
Tuck Thumb – Trap Thumb – Repeat
Tuck Thumb
Trap Thumb
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In Self Defense Training it is 𝐍𝐎𝐓 𝐀𝐋𝐖𝐀𝐘𝐒 𝐀𝐁𝐎𝐔𝐓 Speed, Strength & Stamina OR being able to sweat, punch & kick the pads! By focusing only on these training, it Is 𝐍𝐎𝐓 𝐄𝐍𝐎𝐔𝐆𝐇 to train you to be able to defend yourself in reality.
Having the speed, strength & stamina is 𝐔𝐒𝐄𝐋𝐄𝐒𝐒, if you are unable to react to use it to your advantage in times of need, because the state of mind & emotions during a real physical attack is completely different during our exercise routine.
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E . A . R . S
Emotions, Awareness, Reaction, & Scenario
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It is important for Self-Defense Programs to include The State Of Mind Training in their weekly sessions.𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐒𝐭𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐌𝐢𝐧𝐝 𝐓𝐫𝐚𝐢𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠 includes 4 MAIN ASPECTS: 𝐄.𝐀.𝐑.𝐒
𝐄motions (情绪): Training that involves students experiencing how an actual attack will usually happen(close to reality), teaching students what to expect, & Feel the experience during class. 𝐀wareness (意识力): Training students’ basic awareness to gauge danger based on distance control, environment, telltale signs of behavior & body language. 𝐑eaction (反应): Simple Reflex Training (the more simple a move is, the faster you can respond), Training students’ bodies to auto-respond towards the threat, To Strike or To Run decide without going through a thought process (reducing the time of reaction), reaction to gauge the distance to strike (Timing & Accuracy). Speed will come naturally, once you are being trained repeatedly. 𝐒cenario (情况): Put students into a scenario close to an actual attack scenario, train from a standing position, sitting position, on the ground, walking, or running in different environments, such as confined spaces, large spaces & more.
Cycles of Domestic Violence
How it starts and turn into a vicious cycle.
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There are 3 main phases in Domestic Violence. From Psychological abuse that eventually leads to Physical abuse. The chart on the right shows the symptoms & responses of both parties: The victim & The Batterer (aka The Abuser)Source: Green Haven 4 Help The 3 main phases are:
1) Tension Phase: where tension starts to build up. Some of the symptoms include the abuser yelling, throwing things, banging doors & posting threats.
2) Explosion Phase: The first explosion may be just yelling at you, calling you names, or threatening to hurt you. It could also turn into physical violence in due time. Some have been punched, kicked, slapped, cut with a knife, choked, slapped, and burned. Some even experienced their arm held so tightly until it bruised, fingers being bent, shoulders dislocation, being thrown out from a car and locked in a room for days without food or water. The explosion phase breaks the tension, and the violence will gets getsworse over time.
3) Honeymoon phase: The abuser may appear to have changed suddenly, being apologetic and promise not to do it again. Victims often thought of giving him/her a second chance, but the cycle will never stop. Once it has started, it will not stop. After the Honeymoon phase, it will return back to the tension phase and eventually leads back to the Explosion phase.
Now we get a clearer picture of how Domestic violence happens, we know what to expect and plan for a solution early, rather than delaying and enduring the process. Victims need not suffer in silence, and the abuser should not be walking freely without any consequences of their acts of violence.
Running Away
is the best option when we face an attack whether it is at our homes or on the street, but often we are too late to respond and became the victim.
There are times when we are able to escape, but because we panic, our body does not react the way we want it to react.
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